It’s the kind of fairy tale that would only happen in Los Angeles: An actress and a plastic surgeon fall in love, get married, have kids, and become reality-TV superstars with — and this is big — untarnished reputations. Meet Heather and Terry Dubrow, MD. You know her from The Real Housewives of Orange County and him from Botched, but the two also balance a skin-care line, books, a podcast, and a YouTube show. If we were into tired hashtags, #powercouplegoals might be appropriate.

Television has given us a glimpse into the Dubrows’ world, but we wanted to know what being married to a plastic surgeon is actually like when the cameras stop rolling. Are there Botox injections on the couch before bed? Do dinner party guests expose their breasts and request an expert opinion after three glasses of wine? How good is the friends and family discount? Below, in her own words, Heather Dubrow tells us about the perks and pressures of living with a celebrity doctor.